Life & work tipsPassion 27 September 2017
Why failure isn’t the end of the world

‘Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try again. Fail again. Fail better.’ is a beautiful Samuel Beckett quote, tattooed upon the arm of top tennis player Stanislas Wawrinka. It paints a picture of a process that is as innate to humans as love: failure. But even though failure plays a key role in how we learn, we often see it as a bad thing.

So why don’t we all just stop thinking like that?

Failure isn’t bad for you, you need it to grow: falling down is the only failure if you don’t get up again. We learn from our mistakes – so cliché, but so true – and we need to go through this process again and again to achieve awesomeness. So embrace that awful presentation, that horrible article or that hateful email you sent to the wrong person: what you’ll learn from it is much more valuable.

Let’s learn from our failures
Argh, the number of times you can go over a situation in your head.. You keep repeating the moment over and over and over again, wondering if there was anything you could have done differently to avoid this decay. Woulda, coulda, shoulda. To make mistakes and fail at assignments can feel horrible, but it can teach you valuable lessons about yourselves. Whether it’s how to create a (better) business plan, how to strategize your blog or website or write the best read articles on the web.

Remember that no great woman became successful by doing nothing. Almost every successful businesswoman who made it in the fashion industry has done so by failing, learning from it, moving on and trying it again. Instead of resigning themselves to fate, they let failure motivate them – and you should too.

When you do something wrong, you can be bummed about it for one or two hours. But then it’s time to move on. That doesn’t mean you never look back: analyze your failures to see what your own weaknesses are, so you can do better in the future. What should you focus on? Be honest with yourself. Try to look at the things you’ve actually done in projects or assignments: we humans often hush ourselves by telling that we truly did a great job, even though in reality our work was rather disappointing. Being honest also means accepting failure if it was beyond of your control: if you couldn’t help it, it has no use going over it again and again.

Hey it’s ok, but deal with it
Making a mistake, whether it’s within a large company or as a freelancer, is difficult. Your immediate reaction is that of an ostrich: put your head in the sand and pretend you don’t exist. Don’t! Always try to deal with the situation hands on instead of denying it: 99% of the time it won’t magically disappear. It will make you so much stronger and happier if you deal with difficult situations right away and accept that you’re a human that makes mistakes every known and then.

And remember: Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try again. Fail again. Fail better!

This article is a fresh take on an article that was published earlier on Chapter Friday. And it’s more relevant than ever. Hope you enjoy it as much as we did when we rediscovered it!

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    Bedankt voor dit artikel Yara!

    Ik volg je helemaal. :) Het is zo een goede en belangrijke boodschap dat je deelt in dit artikel.

    We leven in een wereld waar er veel druk gelegd wordt op individuen, de sociale media laat ook veel ideaalbeelden zien, maar toch is het belangrijk te weten dat proberen oké is. Fouten maken nog meer!

    Ik hoor het de laatste dagen vaak zeggen, dat je echt leert uit fouten.

    Ik stuurde dit artikel al door naar enkele vrienden, omdat het echt zo juist is wat je schrijft.


    Dikke kus,
    Sofie van

    It is so good to see someone writing about this.
    Mistakes are a big part of our life. They open our eyes and hearts if we let them. Make us stronger, more thoughtful, different. We just don’t like to accept the fact we are imperfect human beings. We are not here to be perfect but to create ourselves. I agree with everything you wrote. When we put it in that way, mistakes are beautiful. And we are all okay. My professor used to say: Nothing is as scary as it seems. I agree!

    Ja! Zo waar. Falen hoort er gewoon bij en elke keer dat je faalt ben je eigenlijk een stukje dichter bij je doel. <3


    So true, we always end up learning from our mistakes x

    I loved this. Failure is one of the reasons why I’m afraid to start new things sometimes. This was helpful.

    Charmaine Ng | Architecture & Lifestyle Blog

    It is one of the hardest things to accept and learn from. But glad we could give you a little reminder! x

    It is, but that’s the thing: you can only see it clearly looking back.. Once your’e in the middle of it, it’s not so easy. Ah, that’s life for you… :) Don’t blame yourself, but learn from it for the next time (al though, hopefully there won’t be a next time and you meet the perfect man you can turn old with). x

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