‘Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try again. Fail again. Fail better.’ is a beautiful Samuel Beckett quote, tattooed upon the arm of top tennis player Stanislas Wawrinka. It paints a picture of a process that is as innate to humans as love: failure. But even though failure plays a key role in how we learn, we often see it as a bad thing.
So why don’t we all just stop thinking like that?
Failure isn’t bad for you, you need it to grow: falling down is the only failure if you don’t get up again. We learn from our mistakes – so cliché, but so true – and we need to go through this process again and again to achieve awesomeness. So embrace that awful presentation, that horrible article or that hateful email you sent to the wrong person: what you’ll learn from it is much more valuable.
Let’s learn from our failures
Argh, the number of times you can go over a situation in your head.. You keep repeating the moment over and over and over again, wondering if there was anything you could have done differently to avoid this decay. Woulda, coulda, shoulda. To make mistakes and fail at assignments can feel horrible, but it can teach you valuable lessons about yourselves. Whether it’s how to create a (better) business plan, how to strategize your blog or website or write the best read articles on the web.
Remember that no great woman became successful by doing nothing. Almost every successful businesswoman who made it in the fashion industry has done so by failing, learning from it, moving on and trying it again. Instead of resigning themselves to fate, they let failure motivate them – and you should too.
When you do something wrong, you can be bummed about it for one or two hours. But then it’s time to move on. That doesn’t mean you never look back: analyze your failures to see what your own weaknesses are, so you can do better in the future. What should you focus on? Be honest with yourself. Try to look at the things you’ve actually done in projects or assignments: we humans often hush ourselves by telling that we truly did a great job, even though in reality our work was rather disappointing. Being honest also means accepting failure if it was beyond of your control: if you couldn’t help it, it has no use going over it again and again.
Hey it’s ok, but deal with it
Making a mistake, whether it’s within a large company or as a freelancer, is difficult. Your immediate reaction is that of an ostrich: put your head in the sand and pretend you don’t exist. Don’t! Always try to deal with the situation hands on instead of denying it: 99% of the time it won’t magically disappear. It will make you so much stronger and happier if you deal with difficult situations right away and accept that you’re a human that makes mistakes every known and then.
And remember: Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try again. Fail again. Fail better!
This article is a fresh take on an article that was published earlier on Chapter Friday. And it’s more relevant than ever. Hope you enjoy it as much as we did when we rediscovered it!