It’s a hard knock life for us… The question is whether it really is that hard or whether we’re making it hard for ourselves. But what if we could make it easier us girls? Here’s a few quick fixes to take the edge off. Happy thoughts!
YOU EXPECT THE WORST
Problem: When you’re imaging how a situation is going to turn out, you always think the worst will happen. You spend hours and hours bickering about the situation – sleepless nights are involved. But what’s the point in getting anxious about things that work out most of the time?
How to change it: It’s okay to imagine a worst case scenario, but be aware that you have a very lively fantasy.
YOU HAVE UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS
Problem: You want your friends and parents to go to the moon and back for you – and preferably even further. And while it’s obvious that they’ll do anything for you, you always seem to want more.
How to change it: Be grateful for the people around you. Life is about doing things vice versa – if you have no expectations you might be surprised what the people you love are willing to do.
YOU FEEL PERSONALLY ATTACKED
Problem: Your friend does something that you take personal, like cancelling a lunch date. The act itself is harmless, but because you take it the wrong way it leads to anger and frustration.
How to change it: The easiest way to solve this is to let it go. If a friend cancels on you – and calls on beforehand – accept it and set another date. There’s no reason to get mad about something this innocuous, just go grab a coffee by yourself and laugh about your stupid thoughts.
YOU COMPARE YOURSELF TO OTHERS
Problem: Your daily thoughts consist of: ‘girlfriend T. has a better butt, girlfriend P. is never ever broke and that girl at work has the best healthy lifestyle ever’.
How to change it: It’s time to stop comparing yourself to others and start living your own life. If you stop looking at others, you’ll have more time for yourself – which already makes your life so much better.
YOU ALWAYS PLAY IT SAFE
Problem: You live your life in the shadows, afraid to step out and do what you want to. You never do anything impulsive and you never take a risk. Taking a risk simply seems too forward, so you stay right where you are… in your comfort zone.
How to change it: Take a risk! You’ll probably fall a lot, but it’s so much worse to regret the things you never even tried. Go, go, go!
YOU CAN’T LET THINGS GO
Problem: You keep going over and over things in your head that went wrong – did I say something wrong? Do they think I’m not qualified enough? You’re so focussed on what went wrong that you completely obsess about it.
How to change it: Many things in life go wrong and when they do, you can’t change a thing about it. You may feel bad for a while, but look at everything that went right – try focussing on the good. It probably will change your perspective a lot.
Do you recognize yourself in any of these?
(Inspired by Lifehack / Thought Catalog / image by Elize Strydom)