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7 lessons I’ve learned in 25 years

Last weekend I officially surpassed the hefty milestone of being a quarter of a century. Now that I’m old and wise (hence, 26 for a week), I feel like it’s a nice moment to take a look at some of the things I’ve learned in that time. Somehow, my 25th year has taught me more valuable lessons than any other year. Maybe some of the things I’ve learned will be valuable to you too, so here’s a handful of things that really kicked in with me after 25 years.

1. No amount of worrying can change the future and no amount of overthinking can change the past.
Something that doesn’t always come naturally to people (and when I say people I clearly also mean me) is letting go and trusting that the right things will stick. Because – *spoiler alert!* – everything is going to be alright!

2. A clean, peaceful home is a great base for a happy life. 
My brain tends to be pretty chaotic; I constantly switch between thoughts, moods and ideas. In order for me not to go nuts, I need to keep my living environment clear and cleaned up. I’ve found that there’s a direct link to how clean and cozy my home is and how happy I feel.

3. You will make unpopular decisions and that’s fine.
Not everyone is going to approve of the choices you make, the priorities you put in place or the opinions you have. You might lose touch with people because if that, but the most important opinion is the one you have of yourself. Deciding to truly own your decisions will be liberating.

4. Travelling alone can be scary at first, but you’ll get to know yourself better.
This month, I went on a holiday on my own for the first time ever. Like I said on Instagram, I wanted some time off, so I rented an adorable apartment on Ibiza and simply got on a plane. In my opinion it’s really healthy to spend some time alone, and to know how to be happy and whole without relying on anyone or anything else.

5. It’s OK to walk away from things that no longer serve your growth or make you happy.
Whether it’s work, friendship, romance, a future plan that you had: stop thinking about how it could or should have been and move along. If something no longer serves your happiness or growth; leave it right there. Feels impossible? Re-read point 1.

6. Sometimes, all you need is twenty seconds of insane courage.
Recently I was browsing through the Momentary Happiness Instagram and it said: You know, sometimes, all you need is twenty seconds of insane courage. Just literally twenty seconds of just embarrassing bravery. And I promise you, something great will come of it. I totally believe it takes risks to get somewhere. Make the first move. Tell someone how you feel. Be honest. Just suck it up for twenty brave, big seconds and see what happens!

7. Take it easy.
Life isn’t marathon, you know. Making things better or making changes takes time – and a few mistakes along the way.

I’d love to hear from you in the comments with which one of these lessons you can identify most with at this point in your life. Is there anything that you recently found to be particularly true to you?

 

 

 

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61 comments

    jannat

    With the Daily observation we can learnt many things. My thought is a every thing has a lesson. If we see our daily routine work we can learn so much.Now i am so happy with united roofing your thought you have observe all things at age 25years. I am very happy to read this,

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    I can relate to all of them… But my favorite is “It’s OK to walk away from things that no longer serve your growth or make you happy.” No one ever said this to me. And I’ve already quit 3 jobs… I’m just making this big mistake, not taking things easy… It is a pretty good advice :) Great post!

    Great post! I can pretty much relate to them all… I’m a little type A and yes I have to have a clean environment in order for me to fully function. One thing I haven’t ever done is travel on my own…. maybe i just need 20 seconds of courage and jump on a plane by myself!

    “No amount of worrying can change the future and no amount of over thinking can change the past” I wish this will easily come to mind each time I am frighten with the uncertainty of what is to come

    sarah

    I have to admit that claiming to be wise at 25 made me balk a bit, but you do have some great points. I especially struggle with number 1 and it’s something I need to constantly remind myself, which is no easy task!

    You are such a beauty and an inspiration. I love seeing young women who truly view life as a continuing learning experience. I recently turned 25 and I completely relate to you when you mention your “chaotic brain” and one of my goals for the next quarter century of my life is to try and tone that down a little! However I think people like us are SEEKERS- we want to learn as much as we can about ourselves and the world.

    Keep learning, keep blogging, and keep enjoying life- you are very accomplished for a 26 year old woman!

    xx Nichole

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    Some great advice! I’m turning 25 at the end of the year, hoping it will be a year of finding my feet!

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    Oh my gosh, you resonate with me to a T. Thank you for this. I’m almost half way through 26, and I definitely have all the feels for each of these, especially making “unpopular decisions” and being ok to let go of a plan you had for yourself that isn’t what you want anymore, or is put on hold. Thank you, and I’m glad to have found your blog! :)

    I really don’t know how you do this. I don’t even think you are a mind reader but everything you wrote, each point you mentioned, they all hit my conscience, moreover number 1. I’ve been overthinking for the last 7 months and that’s not good at all…

    Great post. Thanks for being a wake up call! :)

    Brilliant. I’m *ahem* well over 26 and while I may have realized some of these lessons over the years, it’s great to see them articulated so well and in one great list that I’ve copied into my notebook to keep reminding me: “everything is going to be alright”. Your blog is also a great reminder for my generation: the young CAN teach the old!

    El

    20 seconds of courage resulted in me booking a flight to Canada to travel Vancouver & the Rockies. I’m travelling alone (just for 3 weeks, mind) and although I’m a little nervous, I’m not that nervous that I regret having booked it. I’m constantly reminding myself not to over think it.

    Thank you for this brilliant post!

    Cicely

    I’m so glad I came across this post today, thank you! All true, and I love number 6 – you only need that short burst of courage to set change in motion and get out of the rut.

    I’ve just turned 25. Thank you for that post.

    I definitely agree with having a clean home. I feel so much better afterwards. Its so hard for me to focus when my house, desk,etc isn’t clean.

    emerald

    Number eight is sooo talking to me…. my relationship is stagnant, I don’t find solace in it anymore buh d fear of hurting him is why I’m holding on

    Aaw Emerald, I understand where you’re at. It so difficult. Remember you only have one life to live and everything will be fine in the end. All the best!

    I agree with all of these. Great post :)

    Chelsea x

    Number 1 resonates with me the most. I am currently working on not dwelling on the things I can’t change and have no control over. The serenity prayer has it right! I went to get breakfast this morning and when I grabbed for my credit card I realized I left my wallet at home. I could have stewed in anger at myself and how unfair my life is sometimes, but I actively thought, “That’s pointless, I can’t change it, it’s done!” And worrying? Forget that! I find most of my worrying is unwarranted and unhealthy. It rarely puts me in a position to do something helpful!

    I loved this list as a 28-year old I feel like I am in the same place as you.

    Thank you for sharing Katie! It seems, the older you get, the more patient you become. Also, accepting youself with flaws and all feels so good :)

    The first lesson is so important, and something I constantly have to remind myself of!

    Céline (theblondpowder)

    Without a doubt number 6 is the one lesson I identify the most with at the moment !

    I really like a guy at work (a colleague not my boss ahah) and after a few month of flirting I understood he was to shy to make the first move, so I took the lead and dared to asked him out, then during the night I kissed him !

    It was the first time I did something like that (and I am 30 !) but I definitely don’t regret it :)
    It’s too soon in our relationship to say that it was worth it but so far so goooooood ;)

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    This is so nice to read! Lovely

    xx

    Nicole

    hi Yara,

    Thank you for this post, I specially like nr 1, nr 3, nr 5 and nr 7… in fact, I love them all :)
    Life isn’t a marathon indeed, it ‘s a precious thing. You got to live what you love!
    x

    Lis

    Hello Yara,
    I liked your post but i have a little comment on it:
    When you are 26 now, last year has been your 26th year of living and now you are in your 27th (as if you are 0 you are in your first year of living and if you are 1 you are in your second year and so on…).
    Hope you don’t feel too old now!

    Sharp Lis! Thanks ;)

    Wise lessons!!! Especially number 1.

    x
    http://www.thecherryfactor.com

    So insightful!

    Enclothed Cognition

    I love reading this, it makes you think

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    I really enjoyed this post, thank you for sharing. I completely agree with number 7. I think if I hadn’t have done this, I wouldn’t be with my boyfriend now because when we got together it was an awkward situation. Those 20 seconds of admitting I liked him changed everything, Completely agree with all of your points and especially 3 and 5! XX

    Twenty seconds of courage, what a brilliant piece of advice!

    Lauren x
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    Great post. I’m not 25 yet but I felt like a lot of it was relevant. I like number 3. At the end of the day, you have to live your life for you and not anyone else!

    The Runaway Journal

    I agree with all of them! Have a nice Sunday! X

    This is very well put. I went thru a lot of these points since I’ve turned 25 ( worst of all #2 this year) and it is helpful to refresh my mind that it was best for me.
    Great post!

    I couldn’t agree more with you on every single thing from this list, but I definitely would point out number one because it’s something so true but at the same time the one thing we forget about the most. Worrying leads nowhere and isn’t actually gonna change anything except make you feel worse about yourself and your life, I completely know this from my own experience :)

    I love the idea of travelling on my own but it does scare me!

    Great post, I’d love to travel alone but don’t think I’m ready yet

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    Love these lessons. I’ll be turning 26 soon and these are all true for me too.

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    Love point one and six. I really enjoyed this post, very inspirational and unlike many posts which are similar. Defiantly taking some great advice away from it so thank you. Im turning 18 in a few months and its kinda scary – so much change but I know its all good. x Happy Birthday :)

    Caitriona | Blog

    It’s a bit scary, I’m turning 24 in two months and I don’t feel ready at all, but I already aknowledged some of the facts you pointed out in this article. It’s amazing how time just flies and what was a tragedy two years ago, now it’s simply another lesson learned.
    And I agree with point 2, when all is messy, I need at least a clean and cosy home to come back to, after a long exhausting day :)

    Kisses,
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    Number 1 is something that at 24, I still struggle with.

    Lizzie Dripping

    Such beautiful wisdom here – unsurprisingly from such an inspirational woman! I love the bit about life not being a marathon, our 20’s can definitely feel that way!

    Warm Regards,
    Alexandra
    http://www.littlewildheart.com

    I love the idea of 20 seconds of insane courage… it’s so true. Number 2 is so important for me as well, it’s amazing how much your surroundings can affect your whole mindset!

    Camilla

    http://summerisntover.com

    I’ve learned so many of these lessons through the years, more recently that it’s okay to walk away from friendships that you feel are toxic/not improving your life. It’s amazing how much more secure you become overtime, and little things seem to matter less and less. Stay clear, and on your path! :)

    xoxo – Kelly
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    Great tips:))) whatever we do we should be always true to ourselves:)

    http://www.mymoodmyday.com

    While I’m only 24, I’ve learnt so much this year, it’s ridiculous. Number 2 and 5 resonate with me so much, as well as travelling by myself (and being okay with it).

    PS. Hope you had a lovely birthday!

    http://www.lioninthewild.com

    absolutely agree about point four. I went to London for six months, on my own. And I believe that those six months were the best of my life so far. I’ve learned a great deal about myself, and I’ve grown a lot. I should do something like that soon again!
    Happy belated birthday x

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    It’s probably because you’re relying on yourself, and make your decisions on your own. I think it’s a good way to get some clarity and at the same time it’s just super exciting to prove to yourself that you can make it on your own – anywhere :)

    Well, those are some valuable lessons. I’m 21 and I still feel I couldn’t travel alone, even though it sounds very appealing.

    http://toujoursanja.blogspot.com/

    Thank you for this article! All of the short lessons mean so much to me and are really great tips to keep in mind. Love your blog by the way, never stop blogging please haha. X

    That’s great to hear Brechtje! And I’m not going anywhere ;)

    I just completly agree with all these 7 lessons, but i’ve learn this things in 19 years haha, but i think you are right that a clean house is important, that everything will be alright, that you sometimes need to let things go if it doesn’t make you happy anymore and sometimes, all you need is twenty seconds of insane courage, i think that’s a really good one. I didn’t think about it that way, but i did some brave things lately and it’s true a little courage can change so many things!

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    aww. that photo of you is so pretty

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    Katelijn

    Number 1 and 7 are so valuable to me. I think at this moment in your life you realize that only you can decide what’s best for you. I discoverd that my gutfeeling is a good guide for what I want to do. You just have to take a moment to stop and listen. And that’s pretty hard when everyone around you encourages you to walk the marathon ;-)

    These are really great life lessons!
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    I couldn’t agree more!
    xxx
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    MikaElan

    Theres are all so true and are things I’ve realised and come to terms with in the last year. Such a great list. and happy belated birthday!

    Great to hear you can relate – and thanks for the birthday wish! :)

    An excellent round up – totally agree!

    Rxx

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