Last weekend I officially surpassed the hefty milestone of being a quarter of a century. Now that I’m old and wise (hence, 26 for a week), I feel like it’s a nice moment to take a look at some of the things I’ve learned in that time. Somehow, my 25th year has taught me more valuable lessons than any other year. Maybe some of the things I’ve learned will be valuable to you too, so here’s a handful of things that really kicked in with me after 25 years.
1. No amount of worrying can change the future and no amount of overthinking can change the past.
Something that doesn’t always come naturally to people (and when I say people I clearly also mean me) is letting go and trusting that the right things will stick. Because – *spoiler alert!* – everything is going to be alright!
2. A clean, peaceful home is a great base for a happy life.
My brain tends to be pretty chaotic; I constantly switch between thoughts, moods and ideas. In order for me not to go nuts, I need to keep my living environment clear and cleaned up. I’ve found that there’s a direct link to how clean and cozy my home is and how happy I feel.
3. You will make unpopular decisions and that’s fine.
Not everyone is going to approve of the choices you make, the priorities you put in place or the opinions you have. You might lose touch with people because if that, but the most important opinion is the one you have of yourself. Deciding to truly own your decisions will be liberating.
4. Travelling alone can be scary at first, but you’ll get to know yourself better.
This month, I went on a holiday on my own for the first time ever. Like I said on Instagram, I wanted some time off, so I rented an adorable apartment on Ibiza and simply got on a plane. In my opinion it’s really healthy to spend some time alone, and to know how to be happy and whole without relying on anyone or anything else.
5. It’s OK to walk away from things that no longer serve your growth or make you happy.
Whether it’s work, friendship, romance, a future plan that you had: stop thinking about how it could or should have been and move along. If something no longer serves your happiness or growth; leave it right there. Feels impossible? Re-read point 1.
6. Sometimes, all you need is twenty seconds of insane courage.
Recently I was browsing through the Momentary Happiness Instagram and it said: You know, sometimes, all you need is twenty seconds of insane courage. Just literally twenty seconds of just embarrassing bravery. And I promise you, something great will come of it. I totally believe it takes risks to get somewhere. Make the first move. Tell someone how you feel. Be honest. Just suck it up for twenty brave, big seconds and see what happens!
7. Take it easy.
Life isn’t marathon, you know. Making things better or making changes takes time – and a few mistakes along the way.
I’d love to hear from you in the comments with which one of these lessons you can identify most with at this point in your life. Is there anything that you recently found to be particularly true to you?